I lamented that I lack a connection, a social connection, with people in my current location. She lamented that despite not going to "church" since July, no one has made comment. I commented that perhaps her church looks different than the typical gathering of individuals on any given Sunday morning. She commented that since her 'church' stopped going to the Sunday morning church she's wondered why she even went in the first place. We both agreed that no one is advocating for the unmarried young adult within the church. We are the forgotten, the overlooked, the ignored, the 'problem group' if you will -- no one is quite sure what to do with us. And no one comments when we're gone.
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:: Posted by atticus (January 21, 2007 10:17 PM)
You know, churches always have a lack of people in leadership and are constantly looking for people to step up. Perhaps if they paid more attention to this demographic they'd find their leaders. So maybe we aren't married and don't understand what it means to be a parent. We have time and energy and are willing to help and to learn if only we were appreciated in return. We don't need praise or glory, just to be noticed for who we are and to be missed when we aren't there. Too much to ask?
:: Posted by caro (January 22, 2007 7:40 AM)
You probably feel it more since you are currently in that demographic. Being a married person, the only reason I got any 'attention' at FGCC was b/c Wade was a pastor, or he was involved in stuff... basically the only reason I ever get attention is b/c of him! :) If he hadn't been as involved as he was, I don't think anyone would have missed us when we left. Actually, I still don't think so... but what am I expecting? Church members to call and email me and tell me how much they miss me? Not really. That never happens to anyone, unless you're close friends with that person. From what I understand, none of our close friends really go to FGCC at all anymore.
Heck, even our Peru missions leader hasn't responded to any of my emails! I think it's not just a problem in church... it's anywhere. People in western society are generally self-absorbed.
:: Posted by crys (January 23, 2007 12:46 PM)
you know, this IS a problem..i know we do not have a Sunday school for the college or young adult (we are small, but have quite a few now that fit that age) it seems everyone is too busy or self-absorbed to pick up the phone and call when they haven't seen someone in a while. of course, sometimes the problem is we don't go to worship regularly so we don't know who has consistently been out. this has me thinking about a need...and your age group is so full of energy, too! we need you. and we need you not to feel unappreciated. i appreciate you and for what it's worth, i think pharmacy is the coolest field ever to be in .... patient contact, closely working with the doctors, who NEED you sooooo much to explain all those complicated interactions. and the money is great...don't forget, lots of mission work out there for you!