That's the title of the book being promoted on Oprah this past Wednesday. It rather struck home ... with that recent post 'I want you to want me'.
The premise of the book is that females make all sorts of excuses for guys, and that we settle all the time. So, if he doesn't call or reply to all your emails - he's just not that into you. Nope, he's not really busy at work, he's not necessarily out of town, an old friend didn't just pop by. Apparently males like to let us down 'easily' and like to avoid confrontation.
Apparently, they also tend to let us know just when it is that they are into us. Apparently they pursue us. Who knew?
So that's it. It's a lesson I needed to be reminded of. And, in all honesty, it's not that big of a deal. He's just not that into me. So, ok, I'll move on.
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:: Posted by caro (September 27, 2004 1:55 PM)
I sooo know what you mean Caro! And how exactly do we force ourselves to show interest when all you want to do is avoid eye contact for fear of being let down (once again)? How do we know what is appropriate to show interest without bearing our souls? Why is it the wrong guys are always the ones that are interested? Why does it seem sooo easy for everyone around me ???
:: Posted by Sally (September 27, 2004 2:00 PM)
funny, we can watch guys blatantly persue other girls and just know that when they like a girl they pull out all the stops but when it comes to us we constantly question. It's easy to see the pursuit from an outside vantage point but we wonder constantly if this guy or that guy is actually persuing us. It's hard to tell. My latest question: what if a guy was persuing me and I just didn't realize it? What if I didn't put out the right signals to allow males to know that I would like for them to persue me? What if I missed out on some great guys because of this? I know how to give out the negative signals but I sure don't know how to give out the positive "come get me" ones!